Marlin: I think I'm okay now.
Syren: Uhuh. Well, just in case, I also bought my own personal back up which gives me a really calm listening ear. I refer to it as my nerve calmer in a glass and it even has its own back up. So I'm all set up and good to go. Are you sure you don't want any water? I can't offer you my nerve calmer because I think it will have the opposite effect.
Marlin (laughs): No, thank you. I'm not thirsty right now.
Syren: Cool. Then go ahead. Lay it on me.
Marlin: Well, he broke up with me. He said things weren't going to work out and I was in a hurry to get married and he isn't. Then he said he'd want to get married one day, but not to me. I don't understand what I did wrong. I was nice to him. I feel like I was hit by a brick. I'm a good person and would be very good to any man I want to be with.
Marlin: I was just so upset. I don't think he even gave us a chance. I don't know why he doesn't like me.
Marlin: Well, what do you think?
Syren pauses for a minute. She loves Marlin and doesn't want to hurt her feelings, but she knows she has to be honest with her.
Syren: Well, first of all, I have no idea how your heart can be broken. You dated Parker twice...barely. Just twice, Girl. Really? Your heart is broken? I think you were infatuated and just worried about marrying someone...anyone. Now, while it's okay to like someone and have a crush, you just jump in too deep. You asked him out on a second date, he didn't even ask you. And while I'm all for asking a guy out on a date, I don't think it's a relationship, even at a fourth date. I just go with the flow and take my time.
Marlin: But, I...
Syren: I'm not done. Please wait for me to finish. It is just not normal for someone to believe their heart is broken after a second date. You need to actually be in a relationship before that should happen. Just my thoughts, but I believe several people would agree with me. While I may be a little more about playing the field and having fun than most people, I do know when I finally when catch some feelings, it will be after really getting to know someone. Because then I would have a real reason to be into that person. Do you see what I'm saying?
Marlin: I think so.
Marlin's cell phone rings.
Marlin: I'm sorry. Let me see who that is.
Syren: Sure. I need a swig of my drink anyway. This could take a while.
Syren is very concerned because Marlin's behavior makes no sense. While she was supportive of her going after what she wanted, she also knows that Marlin should understand that if it doesn't work out that early in the game, you keep it moving.
Syren: I take it your mother gave you hard time about not sealing the deal?
Marlin: Yes. She said to tell you she says 'hello.'
Syren: Marlin, I hate to say this, but your mother is a huge part of your problem. Because she puts this crazy pressure on you to get married and you actually buy into that and act like the world will end if you don't get married soon. You have to stop letting her treat you like that and make you feel that way.
Marlin: I know. I wish she would stop that, I do, but she's my mother.
Syren: I think what you need is beyond my skill as a friend. I think you need to see someone who can help you work through these issues.
Marlin: What are you saying?
Syren: For lack of a better term, you need professional help. A psychologist, a psychiatrist, a counselor, just someone to help you let go of these issues, help you stand up to your mother in better ways than I could suggest. Someone who can help you build confidence and see yourself.
Syren: No, not crazy, but in need of help. It's like you won't feel whole if you don't get married. You have to be whole by yourself in order to be an asset to someone else. Frankly, I don't mess with a man unless he's chasing me. I'm worth more than begging someone to be with me. Shucks, it's a privilege to be with me. My parents instilled that in me. It seems your mother hasn't. So you need someone skilled in helping people get past that.
Marlin: Maybe...maybe. Can you help me find someone? You could be right.
Syren: Sure, I can. I'll even go with you to your first appointment and wait for you. I'll be there for support.
Syren: I'm proud of you for at least wanting to take the first step. I do think it will help you. You'll see how much better you'll feel unloading what's going on and developing self-confidence. Now, to change the subject, you're still going with me to my mother's party, right? She is expecting you. Plus it will take your mind off things to have a good time.
Marlin: Yes, of course. I made sure to have the day off.
Syren (looking up and away, talking to herself or whoever may be listening): Good gravy. I don't think there is enough nerve calmer in my glass or my place to get me through this evening.
Hopefully Syren can help Marlin find someone who can help her move past her current mind set.
Thanks for stopping by. ~ Jaye