Saturday, July 29, 2017

Marlin's Improvement

Marlin is at her appointment with her relationship therapist, Dr. Yulie McNeil.  She's been seeing Dr. McNeil for months to deal with her issue of being desperate to get married.  She made a break through by recognizing her mother's pressure to get married hasn't been helpful.  Her mother projected her own insecurities onto Marlin, although she is in a rather lack luster marriage with Marlin's father.

Fortunately, Marlin has been progressing well and, although she was nervous about dating again, she has started dating Brett.  It's been pretty slow, but that's good for Marlin.  Brett hasn't been in a rush, as long as they can spend time together.  Let's see how things go at this appointment.

Dr. McNeil:  Has your mother's insistence on your finding a husband tapered off?
Marlin:  Yes, she's doing better.  At least a little better.  When she starts down that road with me, I have the strength to tell her that I don't want to talk about it and I will figure it out for myself.  I'm glad I can finally do that and not allow her to make me feel guilty.
Dr. McNeil:  That's good.  How does that make you feel about your ability to communicate with your mother?


Marlin:  I actually feel empowered.  I don't think I've ever felt like an adult with her until now.  I'm really proud of myself.
Dr. McNeil:  You should be.  You've come a long way.  What challenges do you think you still face with regards to your relationship with your mother?
Marlin:  I haven't been able to tell her I have started dating.  I feel like sharing that will just give her ammunition to try to push the marriage agenda even more.  Without that information, she seems easier for me stand up to.  Does that make sense?



Dr. McNeil:  Absolutely.  You believe that sharing this information gives her encouragement and excitement to be hopeful you are closer to what she's been trying to get you to do, regardless of what you want.  Is that correct?
Marlin:  I like the way you put it.  Yes, I just need to keep her calm for at least two reasons.  I need more strength to stand up against more pushing and I don't want to let my own mind start running away with thoughts of marriage right now.
Dr. McNeil:  Then you feel like you're willing to give this new opportunity with the gentleman you are seeing more time to develop before thinking about a larger step?

Marlin:  Yes, I do.  I like Brett.  He's fun to hang out with and I was really surprised he wanted to date me.
Dr.  McNeil:  Mmmm...What made you surprised?


Marlin:  We work together and we've been friends for a while.  Well, there's three of us in particular at work who hang out.  Not that we don't talk to other people at work, but the three of us just hit it off.
Dr.  McNeil:  Who is the third person?


Marlin:  Bryce.  He's so cool to hang out with.
Dr. McNeil:  Have you had romantic feelings for Bryce?
Marlin (looking shocked):  No.  He's the brother I never had.  He is so calm, yet he loves the ladies.  He's such a flirt with all the young ladies.  There is no way I could take him seriously.  But I do love him as a brother.  He talked me into dating Brett. 


Dr. McNeil:  How do you feel about that?
Marlin:  I feel like Bryce saw something in me and Brett he thought would work together.  I respect that he gave me a little push to at least give Brett a chance.
Dr. McNeil:  It sounds like Bryce has been a good friend to you.
Marlin (smiling): Yes, he has.



Dr. McNeil:  Let's talk some more about Brett.  Are you attracted to him?
Marlin:  Yes, I think he's attractive.  I really like spending time with him. 
Dr. McNeil:  That's a good start.  How does he treat you?
Marlin:  He listens to me and checks on me to be sure I'm okay.  Even if we can't talk on the phone, he will send me a text to say 'hello.'  I like that.


Dr. McNeil:  He certainly seems very attentive.  At this point, do you want to continue to build your relationship with him to see where things go?
Marlin:  Yes.  I haven't seen anything that would make me be concerned.  I'm just balancing what I've been learning with what's going on between us. 
Dr. McNeil:  Have you been physically intimate yet?


Marlin (blushing):  Oh my goodness.  No. 
Dr. McNeil:  It's good you take your time so that you don't confuse your real feelings with feelings driven by physical connection.  You could consider waiting until you are sure about the state and direction of your relationship.
Marlin:  Yes, I think you're right.  Brett is such a gentleman, he's never mentioned it, so I know he's not rushing.

Dr. McNeil:  Good.  It sounds like you're both on the same page. Continue to communicate and be clear about what you want without allowing interference from people outside of your relationship with Brett.  Do you think you can do that?
Marlin:  Yes, I can do that.  I can stay strong and thing about what I want.
Dr. McNeil:  Good.  Now I would like to talk about some of the other things you've been doing to work on yourself.
Marlin:  Okay.

Well, we'll let Marlin and Dr. McNeil continue the rest of the session.  I'm hoping we can catch up with some other residents over the next week.  Lots going on. Stay tuned.

Thanks for stopping by. ~ Jaye

Saturday, July 22, 2017

It is the Dating Game

We last left off with Giordana (aka Gio) hosting the Dating Game to help one of our newest bachelors, Blaze Far, find a suitable love interest.  He's very fortunate to be able to do this.  Most of the men here don't have this opportunity.  But Miss Slay demanded suggested it and, well you've seen her in action.  She's quite bossy, so she's getting what she wanted.  Even though she dipped out on us all to go look at and flirt with men.  SMH!

Gio is about to ask the first question and get responses from the ladies, so let's see how this goes down.  Shall we?

Gio:  The first question is: Why are you interested in Blaze as a potential love interest?  We'll start with Song and each time I ask a new question, the lady to the prior lady's left will be the first to answer. Your left, not mine.  So, Song, what is your response. 
Blaze:  That certainly seems like a fair way to go through this.
Gio:  Yes it is. I'm glad you like it.   Now, let's see what Song has to say, please.  Song?


Song:  Well, I think he's very handsome.  But that's not my main reason.  I read his profile, which says he has a very calming demeanor and is very considerate.  I like that.  I would like to have a man in my life just like him.
Gio:  Very nice.  Now Falon.  Same question for you.  Why are you interested in Blaze as a potential love interest?


Falon:  I'm a good looking young lady who deserves a good looking man on my arm.  I think we'd have fun together and be a great couple.  He'd be very happy with me.
Gio:  Okay.  Thank you, Falon.  Seiko, how would you like to respond?


Seiko:  I would like to be with someone who I can relate to and who can relate to me.  Yes, Blaze is handsome, but that fades.  I am hoping for a connection that is deeper than that.  One that I think can be there for us if we give each other a chance to be ourselves, while understanding and supporting each other.  I'd like to find out if he is that person.
Gio:  Nice response.  Andressa, why are you interested in Blaze?


Andressa:  I...I think he's a nice boy.  I think.  I, uh, yes.  He's nice.
Gio (confused about Andressa's hesitation and short answer):  Okay.  Well, he certainly is

 Gio:  Blaze would like to be married with children one day.  So, what are your thoughts on being married and having children?  Feel free to expand on your answer, if you must.  Thank you.  We will start with Falon.


Falon:  Oh, my.  Married with children.  That certainly sounds so exciting.  But I do think we should really know each other first and discuss that personally.  This is so public. What two people decide to do with their lives if very personal.  Maybe we could spend some time talking after the show and really has things out.
Gio:  Yes, that could be a possibility, for the person who Blaze chooses.  But at this time, that is not part of this game.  So, next is Seiko.


Seiko:  Yes, I would like to have children one day, as well as having a husband.  Well, the husband first.  Honestly, I hope that's not too soon.  I am still young and I have a budding modeling career ahead of me I wish to pursue.  But I think there can be a right time for all three.
Gio:  Me too.  Andressa, what are your thoughts on being married with children?


Andressa:  Yes, I would like that.


Gio waits for a few seconds to see if Andressa, plans to add more.  She smiles at her and Andressa just smiles back, with no additional response.

Gio:  Okay.  So, Song, what are your thoughts on marriage and children?


Song:  I love my sisters very much.  So I would like several children so they can grow up and be close like us.  I miss my father so dearly and I treasure how I saw him treat both of my mothers.  So marriage is something I look forward to also.
Gio:  I love that sentiment.


Gio:  I think we are running out of time, so I will ask one last question.  If Blaze does not choose you, what will you do from here?  Let's start with Seiko.


Seiko:  I will continue my career and when the time is right, I will meet and be with a man who will be right for me.  I cannot force anything to happen, so I do what can do and make decisions accordingly.
Gio:  Well, alright!  Andressa, what will you do from here is Blaze does not select you?


Andressa:  I will go back to be with my aunt and uncles and visit with my family.
Gio:  Andressa, Honey.  Do you really want to date Blaze?  It seems like you're reluctantly here.
Andressa (hesitating):  Yes.  My aunt says I am to come here and I come here.  I do not know this man.  I do not think we are to be together.
Gio:  I'm so sorry, but I know your aunt and I get it.  At least that's settled.  Thank you so much for being honest.
Blaze: Yes, thank you.


Gio:  So, Song, what will you do?
Song:  I will not be happy, but what can I do. Just go on with my life, right?  Eventually someone will come along.
Gio:  That is so true.  And our final answer for the evening is from Falon.  Falon, what will you do?


Falon:  I will look up his super fine big brother and see what's up with him.  I still have another chance to Mrs. Far.  It's called a back up plan. 
Gio:  Mmmm... Interesting.  Thank you.


Blaze:  My brother?
Gio:  She's being honestThe comment was a little inconsiderate, but she is being honest.  Plus, you've just met these ladies.  It's not like she'll be your ex-girlfriend.
Blaze:  Yes, I see.  You're right.
Gio:  We're wrapping this up.


Gio:  Ladies we appreciate your honesty and taking the time to be in the spotlight like this to answer these questions.  I know this was quick, but this was just a quick way to help Blaze narrow down and decide who he would like to consider dating.  We are not guaranteeing an immediate date or relationship.  But all of your responses will be considered and we'll get back to you all.
Blaze:  Thank you for coming.  You are all so beautiful.  It will be a hard decision to make.
Gio:  Honestly, we're reduced back to three ladies because it is clear Andressa was forced to come here.  But we do appreciate your coming and having the chance to meet you.



Gio:  We are going to review the responses from each lady, have a discussion and come up with the right match for Blaze.  We'll let you know as soon as possible who has been selected.  Thank you so much for joining us for our version of The Dating Game!

Sunday, July 9, 2017

The Dating Game?

When Blaze arrived, Miss Slay wanted to help him find a lady.  So finally, after advertising and marketing the change to speed date and meet Blaze, several applications were submitted and reviewed by the ladies.  Some of the 'background' ladies without the ability to move, were quickly ruled out.  Blaze is a good looking guy and, let's just say, even as humble as he is, he's not a saint.  He'd like a woman who can move (like dancing - what were you thinking I meant?)

It wasn't easy, but we narrowed down to three possibilities.  I was going to let Miss Slay handle this on her own, but I'm curious about how it's going to turn out.  Aren't you?  Care to join me as I check in on the speed dating?  Let's see how it's going, shall we.

Me: Hi, Blaze.  Hi, Gio.  What are you doing here?  Where's Miss Slay?  Isn't she supposed to be here?
Blaze:  Hi. 
Gio:  Hey.  Well, yes, you are correct.  She should have been here, but she decided to take a vacation.  Something about a beach and hunks with their chests out or something.
Me:  Really?
Gio:  Unfortunately, yes.

Me:  So how did you get elected to take her place?
Gio:  Interesting story.  She decided that since I was able to cross over from Display to Play and I have hosted showing the new Re-ment, I not only am privileged, but I should do well as a host to, get this, the Dating Game.
Me:  The Dating Game?  What happened to speed dating?
Gio:  I don't make these things up.  Besides, you know I know how to deal with, shall we say, individuals who need attention.  I figured there was no use fighting the idea.  Plus it should be fun.
Me:  One can only hope.  So who do we have?

Gio: First, we have a Fan Favorite who is experienced with hosting as well, the lovely Song Li.


Song:  Hi!
Gio:  Next we have fairly new and so cute, Falon Atwater.


Falon:  Hello!
Gio:  Third, we have the beautiful model, Seiko Watanabe. 

Seiko:  Kon'nichiwa


Gio:  And last, but not least...
Me: Wait, what you do mean last?  There were there final ladies identified, right?
Gio:  Yes, but then Tandra rushed in with an application and another young lady.
Me:  But she missed the deadline.  Wait, I wouldn't think either of her daughters is interested.
Gio:  They're not.  Her niece arrived recently and she didn't want her to miss the chance.  I couldn't say no.
Me:  I thought you knew how to handle people.
Gio: I do.  But have you met, Tandra.  She's that one person you, you know, the match everyone tells you you'll meet one day.  The one over whom your Jedi mind tricks won't work.  Well, that's Tandra for me.
Me:  Got it.  Well, let's meet her.
Gio:  This is Andressa, the lovely young lady straight from Brazil. 


Andressa: Ola!

Blaze:  You are all so beautiful.  It's such a pleasure to meet you all.  I am so sorry I can only pick one.  Not that I want more than one, but I just will feel so bad letting the others down.  I hope you don't take it personally.

The ladies start laughing. 

Gio:  It's okay Blaze.  They understand and I'm sure there are several other gentlemen who would be interested in any of these ladies.

Bo:  I know I would be.  Hello, Ladies.  I'm Bo.  Blaze's big brother.  It's a pleasure to see you all here and open to dating him.
Gio:  Nice of you to stop by, Bo.
Blaze:  Hi, Big Brother.  Thanks for supporting me.

Andressa:  Ola.
Seiko:  Hi, It's nice to meet you.
Falon:  Hi and welcome.
Song:  Hello. 


Song:  Please let him be the consolation prize.
Falon: Right?  Good looks run in that family for sure.  Do you think he'll stay?  Blaze is cute, but I need a back up plan.  The males are limited around here.
Song: Right?  I've been taking my time hoping new males will arrive faster than these females with whom we need to compete, but I'm sure the 'Power That Is' is working on getting more males. It's just that these good looking guys are hard to come by. 
Falon: You know that's just how it is.  Females always outnumber the males.

Gio:  Bo, are you staying?
Bo:  No, Sweetheart.  But I did just want to drop by.  I trust my brother is in lovely hands.
Blaze: I wish you could stay.


Bo:  The ball is in your court, Bro.  Don't rush it.  If none of these work out, please forgive me, ladies, but there are lots more residents here.  All just as beautiful. 
Blaze (blushing):  Thank you.  I'll be home right after.
Bo:  No rush. You may want to spend some time with the chosen one.  I'll see you later. Enjoy yourselves, Ladies.  Goodbye.
Gio:  Ladies, it was nice of Bo to stop by.  We will get started shortly.

Bo leaves just as quickly as he appeared. 

Gio:  So ladies, instead of those three by five cards, which I think were actually 8 by something cards, they were so huge, I will use this lively Ipad to ask questions.  Please be honest.  Yes, you want to make a good impression, but most of all, we must make a good match.  Yes, it's the Dating Game, but this is not a game, it's about finding the best match for you both.  You deserve what you deserve and you shouldn't lose sight of that just to 'win.'  Agreed?

All the ladies agree.

Gio:  Great, now let's get started with the first question...

It looks like Blaze will have some options.  But you'll have to tune back in to see how the 'Dating Game' goes. 

Thanks for stopping by. ~ Jaye